Things You Must Discuss with Your Boyfriend Before Marriage

Congratulations if you have found a life companion in your current boyfriend. Love is like floating clouds. They take us high above the sky.

But wait! Come back to earth for a second. You have some discussions to do with your boyfriend to make sure that you two can keep floating forever instead of arranging each other's funeral. One of the leading causes of divorce is argument.

This happens from misconceptions and miscommunication. That is why, boyfriend and girlfriend must communicate with each other before the marriage can take place. But this communication should not be only about general likes and dislikes. Instead, they must be about the future. Consider the following questions:

1. Where do we live?

While some people are happy to live in their hometown, others prefer to move out completely. And then there are those who do not wish to live in their country. Ever heard of people who say they want to travel around the world? If you boyfriend is one of them and you don't truly agree with him, you will have problem with him after you guys say "I do". So discuss it as much as possible. Some couples actually divorce because of the location issue.

2. What are our missions for the future?
This is one of the most sensitive issues that you will have to bring to the table as soon as possible. You need to find out whether the two of you have similar future goals. If you fail to do it, after marriage, your expectations about him will turn into fantasy. Eventually, you are the only who will walk away disappointed. Examples of future missions are: to buy a house immediately or later to do job or business, how to manage shopping and so on.

3. When and how many children should we have?
Some people simply do not like children, but others love being around them. Find out whether your partner really wants them and how many in number. It is also important for you two to discuss as to after how many years of marriage you would want to conceive a child.
4. Would you be interested in helping me with household tasks?
In general, people think it is the duty of the wife to take care of the house. But time has changed. Just like most men, a woman now has to work full 8 hours, Monday to Friday. It is rather foolish to think that once at home, she will be able to handle all household chores. It is not a piece of cake. If you have this same opinion about yourself you must ask your boyfriend whether you two should evenly distribute the household tasks between each other. This is highly important. Otherwise, after marriage, it will not take much time for you to burst into flames.

5. How should we handle our finance?
Some husbands and wives are happy to have a joint account. Others prefer space. Bills are another problem. Good news is that since women also contribute financially to a family, the men now are free from certain cost burden. But going overboard with spending create much disappoint in the marriage. So you must discuss with him things pertaining to bank account and budget. It is seen that most divorces occur due to debt after Christmas.

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